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Met my wife online dating. Married 13 years. We've been together 15.

Honestly, 15 years ago I thought online dating was for weirdos. That was until one day my roommate at the time brought home a smart, attractive and seemingly "normal" girl.

Online dating is not for everyone. There is a lot of luck involved as well. Still, it's a nice way to meet people. Keep your expectations low and you'll always come out on top.

I don't remember being too secretive with my number at the time, but I don't think I gave that out until after I met the girl.

Meat wrote:

Stannis wrote:

MrDollarBills wrote:
As a rule, I don't advise anyone using the gym as a place to meet women.

Don't be that guy yall

I don't see anything wrong with that tbh. It's just like any place. Just do it respectfully.

if it goes south, someone might have to leave the gym. if you like your gym, aint worth the risk

That, and gym time is personal time for ppl. I've seen too many dudes bothering the hell out of women in the middle of their work out and they're clearly annoyed.

knicks94 wrote:

MrDollarBills wrote:

NYKinMIA wrote:serious question, where does one go to meet quality women aged 35+ that doesn't involve alcohol?

don't you dare say church or the gym either.

As a rule, I don't advise anyone using the gym as a place to meet women.

Don't be that guy yall

Not for nothing, there are some women at the gym that like to stare at a guy.

That's different. If someone is interested, you'll know.

HarthorneWingo wrote:Where’s Fat? We need his input.

I’ll give you the tea

1- Never reveal yourself early start out using a fake profile under a email you don’t use.

2- talk to as many females as possible don’t dedicate yourself to one person. However don’t get to deep into convos just feel everything out because u don’t want them falling in love with the fake profile person.

3. Narrow your choices to the ones you really like and begin the Video chat process but make sure you turn your light off so you don’t reveal yourself. and also make your voice extremely deep, you don’t even have to stay on long this is just a trial run to see if their real or not. Once you’ve confirmed they are real say you have bad connection and exit the chat.

4. Create your actual real profile find those woman you had interest in and begin talking with them. by this time u should know things they wouldn’t expect u to know because you’ve chatted with them on the fake profile already so jumping into convo with them should be smoove Transition.

5- secure the number when your comfortable and feel it’s the right time to do so.

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Fat wrote:

HarthorneWingo wrote:Where’s Fat? We need his input.

I’ll give you the tea

1- Never reveal yourself early start out using a fake profile under a email you don’t use.

2- talk to as many females as possible don’t dedicate yourself to one person. However don’t get to deep into convos just feel everything out because u don’t want them falling in love with the fake profile person.

3. Narrow your choices to the ones you really like and begin the Video chat process but make sure you turn your light off so you don’t reveal yourself. and also make your voice extremely deep, you don’t even have to stay on long this is just a trial run to see if their real or not. Once you’ve confirmed they are real say you have bad connection and exit the chat.

4. Create your actual real profile find those woman you had interest in and begin talking with them. by this time u should know things they wouldn’t expect u to know because you’ve chatted with them on the fake profile already so jumping into convo with them should be smoove Transition.

5- secure the number when your comfortable and feel it’s the right time to do so.

The King has spoken! Perfect advice.

MrDollarBills wrote:

knicks94 wrote:

MrDollarBills wrote:
As a rule, I don't advise anyone using the gym as a place to meet women.

Don't be that guy yall

Not for nothing, there are some women at the gym that like to stare at a guy.

That's different. If someone is interested, you'll know.

Yeah, it makes me feel uncomfortable. If you're going to stare at my body, then at least have the courtesy to come over and say "Hello".

nykballa2k4 wrote:

HarthorneWingo wrote:These dating sites are going to get me killed.

This thread is giving me flashbacks to fatboys sex doll thread. A+ thread.

There was also that "my girl got fat" thread.

There's probably a few others I can't remember.

I met my wife on okcupid. We'll be married 10 years this summer and have a wonderful son.

I used to be very pro online dating after my positive experience, but I think these days its a real sh*tshow. Good luck out there gents.

Stannis wrote:

nykballa2k4 wrote:

HarthorneWingo wrote:These dating sites are going to get me killed.

This thread is giving me flashbacks to fatboys sex doll thread. A+ thread.

There was also that "my girl got fat" thread.

There's probably a few others I can't remember.

That was perhaps the All Time Greatest Thread on this forum.

Deleted my Bumble after reading this thread.

DE FENSE wrote:I met my wife on okcupid. We'll be married 10 years this summer and have a wonderful son.

I used to be very pro online dating after my positive experience, but I think these days its a real sh*tshow. Good luck out there gents.

I also met my wife on a dating website after being single for some time. I really don't know how much of the online dating landscape has changed since I haven't been at it for years.

HarthorneWingo wrote:

MrDollarBills wrote:

knicks94 wrote:
Not for nothing, there are some women at the gym that like to stare at a guy.

That's different. If someone is interested, you'll know.

Yeah, it makes me feel uncomfortable. If you're going to stare at my body, then at least have the courtesy to come over and say "Hello".

For real. Got me out here feeling like a piece of meat

WaltFrazier wrote:

moocow007 wrote:

Jalen Bluntson wrote:Really? Wingo using dating sites? What's wrong with hookers?

Wingo's got class. I've posted pics of when he was young and dressed in his Sunday best.



All he needs nowadays is a couple days advanced warning, a big bottle of Hims, a couple aspirins to keep the blood vessels from clogging up and he's good to go...for 2, maybe even 3 hours.

If this dating thing works, Wingo should change his username to CallMeSuperFly.

On a serious note though...look to join clubs that do things that you're interested in or that you have a background in. No these aren't school clubs and don't require you to be in school of any sort.

Example would be if you're big on outdoors and organics there a club I used to belong to called the Appalachian Mountain Clubs (they have Chapters pretty much throughout the northeast). One of their big ones is right in NYC. They have events and outings constantly out in the outdoors (camping, canoeing, park cleanups, feed the hungry, etc.) and will usually go grab food as a group afterwards. All sorts of things. And the people are very chill and just good honest people. No fakes or pretenders. A lot of them are older and plenty of opportunities for relationship building cause they're divorced or their significant other has passed).

I joined only cause they also have a softball club and I was just looking to play some softball on a regular basis without having to deal with big beer bellied macho guys that keep wanting to talk crap and that want to fight you if you beat them lol (grew up with those types). But for those that want to try and find someone that is nice and down to earth, clubs like these I would definitely suggest.

They get to see you and feel who you are and you them likewise without any pressure cause you're doing "community" things. Then as you do more and more things together maybe something builds. Don't need to worry about being catfished or doxed, pressure of knowing what to do on a blind date when it's just you and her (and the pressure's on), concerns that they may be nuts, etc. Think of this approach as more "organic" way of maybe finding someone.

Let's be honest the biggest problem with dating online is that everyone tries so hard to look and sound their best in their bio. Inevitably and almost always one or both will be disappointed (potentially heavily disappointed depending how much you tried to fluff yourself up lol). So instead try something where you get to meet different people pressure free. That way you get to see them as they really are and they get to see you as you really are. Then if you like each other then it's a whole lot more likely to not go right down the **** fast.

thebuzzardman wrote:I tried my hand at entrepreneurship with a dating site "Hookersnblow.org", where the business model was the hookers would deliver the blow to the client, achieving synergy by combining revenue streams from two tried and true businesses.

I didn't account for the fact the hookers always wound up doing all the blow before they got to the client.

You plan things badly.

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DOT wrote:

knicks94 wrote:

DOT wrote:"Damaged goods"?

Yes, dating websites are filled with single mothers who are past their prime and are looking for a chad that can support them.

I don't understand

So being a mother makes you "damaged goods"?

Would a single father also be "damaged goods"?

Yes. Yes it would.

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DOT wrote:

Im Coming Home wrote:Apparently on these dating sites and apps it's like the top 10% or 20% of men are the only ones who get any matches and the women all "fight" for those

That's just a math problem

Cause it's like 80% men, 20% women on dating sites, so even if every woman matched, that means at best 1 in 4 men would get a match

It's unbalanced not because women are too picky, but because it's just not an accurate reflection of real life populations where there are slightly more women than men.

The way I hear it the women can't find good men on these sites. So we all just suck.

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NYKinMIA wrote:the problem with just going out to a bar is being the old dude is not a great look

and unless you're a drinker too, chances are you going to meet a drinker.

Sad but true. Men have a shelf life too.

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prophet_of_rage wrote:

NYKinMIA wrote:the problem with just going out to a bar is being the old dude is not a great look

and unless you're a drinker too, chances are you going to meet a drinker.

Sad but true. Men have a shelf life too.

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That's why they invented money, viagra and penis enhancement surgeries.