___Rand___ wrote:cgf wrote:___Rand___ wrote:
Well that's just it. It is about quelling complaints. Sometimes the teams just want acknowledgement that refs fudged up and they can move on - also this is about clarification of rules. Otherwise interpretations become a problem.
yea I noticed CNC is hugely popular with young women. Older women never requests this. I'd like to hear your theories on why that is - send me a PM!
True...I just wish they did a better job of the clarifying the rules part. Like I still would like an explanation for why the contact on Hart was marginal when Maxey initiates the contact, extends both arms, and Hart gets thrown off balance by it.
Not saying that they're wrong to call that a correct non-call but the fouls on Maxey incorrect non-calls; I just want to understand why for my own edification.
What's not said is, the NBA is saying is Hart exaggerated the contact. That's why they are calling it "marginal" when Hart was falling backwards.cgf wrote:
***If this OT tangent isn't board appropriate, can a mod let me know and we'll take this to PM's if there's anything more to be said***
Having talked about this with a lot of the girls that were into and many of my platonic female friends...and having had sketchy experiences of my own with an older girl when I was entirely too young...my best understanding is that (like everything in life) it's a combination of many factors, but (arguably) the biggest are:
Porn getting more violent & more girls watching extreme porn at very young ages; it playing into the age gap thing; and...not just how many women have either experienced real sexual violence/abuse for themselves, or had someone close to them affected by it...but how much more aware they are of how common place it is amongst all groups of women.
So, like most kinks (if explored with a trustworthy partner*), it can provide a safe environment in which to play through similar experiences. Either for catharsis about an ever-present fear, or to be able to interact with those experience that have been bottled up without being utterly overwhelmed.
Plus it plays on that connection between fear & arousal that can be formed when your formative sexual experiences are unwanted & terrifying.
*which itself is a major gamble in the bdsm world...there are just sooooo many narcissistic little boys that call themselves doms instead of the scum that they really are...
yeah porn contributing to it makes a lot of sense. It's the generation that grew up with rampant porn online.
I guess that could make sense. Feels like a stretch because exaggerating contact doesn't negate the contact...whether Hart exaggerates it or not, Maxey initiates the contact, extends both arms, and Hart is moved away from him as a result...so I can get the refs not calling it in the moment because they had swallowed their whistles and thought Josh was selling it, but not why it's considered a correct no call in the report.
Porn's part of them finding that that's what they're into, but them being into it is much more about how ever present that fear of sexual violence/abuse is, how much more cognizant they are of just how ubiquitous it is, and how many of them have personal experiences. So far every girl I've met who was into it, eventually told me about their personal experiences with abuse once they felt comfortable enough to open up...whereas only some of them had ever even watched porn for themselves.