OT-Kobe has another affair???

[The MVPlaya]

Seriously though, Kobe isn't that stupid, this is way too close to home.

[Pancho_Pantera]

Who cares. It's not like he's the first guy in the NBA to cheat on his wife. He's just too stupid and easy to get caught.

[incontrol__]

Wow that site looks really reputable!

[chrice]

Kobe was hitting on women even after they got engaged, and I do mean right after. Not sure why some people are painting him out to be some kind of angel, he's a warmblooded male with lots of money and fame. Can't be that hard to believe.

[The Nash Era]

I've never even heard of that site.

This site busted out the Matt Leinart pictures of him partying, and the Boris Diaw pictures of him with various women throughout the season. I wouldn't be surprised if they did have the pictures..

[Flash3]

It's hard not to cheat I would imagine when every girl is all over you. I'm sure though that Kobe just took her out to lunch or something and that's how this whole thing started.

Self-Control? Respect for yourself and for your wife and kid(s)? They are many things that are easy to do, but shouldn't, given the position you might be in or not be in.

That isn't a valid excuse.

[semi-sentient]

Do you talk out of your ass or are you just a liar?

This is the biggest pile of sh*t I've ever heard. This is coming someone from the middle east, where the divorce rate is practically 0.

Your uninformed, and greatly at that. Hey, you incoherent, uninformed (expletive), guess 'what?'. And by guess 'what?', I mean the punishment of adultery in the middle east.

Answer: Being pelted...to death.

Thanks, try again.

I wasn't referring to the whacko's in the middle-east, obviously. Can you even call that a culture?

Pelting people to death? That isn't even civilized, as far as I'm concerned. If that's you're thing, more power to you. Evolution will sort it all out at the end of the day, so good riddance.

...oh and try googling "adultery" in Asian cultures as well (where the divorce rate it also very very low). You'll find they don't take it very well there either.

Maybe you should try googling it before talking out of your ass.

Japanese relation to sex

There is a kind a tacit understanding between spouse that after 10 years of marriage (loveless anyway) and a few children, the man is free to satisfy his libido somewhere else. That is why the sex industry is so prosperous in Japan.

Male literature in combini (convenience stores) is 90% porn and everyone reads it openly (and shamelessly) anywhere. Even serious newspapers have their "pink pages". This is just beyond belief for Westerners first visiting Japan.

... and that was just from the 1st link I found. I've talked to several Chinese women (in China, not the Americanized ones) that follow the same train of thought. There are plenty of women in the Asian culture who feel that extramarital affairs actually strengthen a relationship.

Anyway, what I stated is based directly on people who I've interacted with, not on statistics or laws. If 9 out of 10 people are stating that "cheating" is not that big of a deal, then who the hell am I to disagree?

Go get stoned.

[CBS7]

Doesn't the US have a ridiculously high divorce rate though? I wouldn't say there are better marriages here then elsewhere.

[CITYOFANGELSX3]

Especially for athletes. Look at what happend to shaq. His wife was stealing his money and giving it to her other man. Brutal. Even wade left his wife for star jones!!

[bballmaniac27]

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... and that was just from the 1st link I found. I've talked to several Chinese women (in China, not the Americanized ones) that follow the same train of thought. There are plenty of women in the Asian culture who feel that extramarital affairs actually strengthen a relationship.

I highly doubt that, in some asian countries adultery is a crime.

[CBS7]

I believe its a crime in some US states, just not really enforced.

[endo]

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Do you want the politically correct answer?

That would be because he married too soon.

And been with the same women for a long time too.

Even if you were nailing Jessica Alba, after a year or so, you'd become bored and want to chase new pu$$y.

It's in a man's DNA. Especially men with options. And an athlete with money has tons of options.

[10scott10]

I believe its a crime in some US states, just not really enforced.

i don't think it has been a crime for many decades

[semi-sentient]

I highly doubt that, in some asian countries adultery is a crime.

You highly doubt what? The opinions that people of other cultures have expressed to me? What does that have to do with the law?

Anyway, smoking Marijuana is also a crime (in the US), while drinking alcohol isn't. Does that stop anyone from doing it, and more importantly, does it make it wrong to smoke just because it's a crime, while drinking alcohol is somehow right?

The more people allow themselves to be held hostage to nonsense like this the more lawmakers will tighten the noose.

Freedom... it's a great thing. Too bad it isn't practiced very much.

[CBS7]

If so many people say that cheating actually strengthens a relationship/marriage then why is the divorce rate so high?

[One of Shemps Kids]

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Maybe you should have looked past the first link.


...and you considering a culture "whacko" still doesn't make it not a culture. And for you insulting me and calling me a "whacko", you don't know a damn thing about me. So I suggest you stop claiming anything in regards to me. But I know thats hard, hard for people with no basis of opinion and information to do. You don't know anything, so you start to insult or send racist remarks, in your own attempt to win an argument. All that does is make you a bigot, and by me not replying to with only insults (even though you are a douchebag), it makes me a bigger man, for rising above a racist.


Thanks.

[XxIronChainzxX]

If so many people say that cheating actually strengthens a relationship/marriage then why is the divorce rate so high?

As I understand the argument, it's totally different that how we'd (i.e. in North America) frame it. It's not a matter of cheating in the sense that you feel unsatisfied with your lot, i.e. the person you're "stuck" with, and want something different, but rather it's an outlet of sorts. It's sort of... you experience something new, and whatever, but always respect your obligation and commitment in the end. So the argument is that it would be an extramarital affair, but it wouldn't be cheating in the sense that it's a direct betrayal of the spouse and the marriage arrangement.

Meanwhile, adultery here is seen as a direct betrayal of the arrangement between the spouses, and it a significant issue toward that end because physical loyalty and exclusivity is guaranteed.

Or something like that. I'm not a proponent of the thing, just a mouthpiece.

[semi-sentient]

Maybe you should have looked past the first link.

Why? You asked me to Google it, and I did. I'm sure I'll find a variety of different results, but that happened to be the first thing I found, so your request was fulfilled as far as I'm concerned.

...and you considering a culture "whacko" still doesn't make it not a culture.

Do you think it's acceptable to stone people to death for having sex with others while married? If you do, then yes, you are a whacko. If not, then my remarks obviously don't apply to you. I shouldn't even have to point that out, but here I am having to do just that.

And for you insulting me and calling me a "whacko", you don't know a damn thing about me. So I suggest you stop claiming anything in regards to me. But I know thats hard, hard for people with no basis of opinion and information to do. You don't know anything, so you start to insult or send racist remarks, in your own attempt to win an argument. All that does is make you a bigot, and by me not replying to with only insults (even though you are a douchebag), it makes me a bigger man, for rising above a racist.

Spare me.

Your inability to comprehend what you read is the real problem here. I stated that "IF" that is your thing, which implies that I'm not directing my comments at you in particular, then evolution will work it all out at the end of the day.

Thanks.

You're welcome.

[bballmaniac27]

you highly doubt what? The opinions that people of other cultures have expressed to me? What does that have to do with the law?

Anyway, smoking Marijuana is also a crime (in the US), while drinking alcohol isn't. Does that stop anyone from doing it, and more importantly, does it make it wrong to smoke just because it's a crime, while drinking alcohol is somehow right?

The more people allow themselves to be held hostage to nonsense like this the more lawmakers will tighten the noose.

I'm sorry but I just find it hard to believe that having extramarital relations could somehow strengthen a marriage. But hey, I'm no expert on the subject. In my experiences people from most cultures usually disapprove of it. One of my best friends is Taiwanese, and I know his family was devastated when his father had an affair.

I mean, why get married in the first place? what's the point? IMO, once you get married you should be committed to your partner.Anyways you're entitled to your opinions, everyone has their own moral values.

Freedom... it's a great thing. Too bad it isn't practiced very much.

It's fine if you think it's OK but please don't go around talking like your opinion is somehow above everyone else's.

[B-Scott]

This is how i look at it. Many people got upset because Kobe cheated on his wife back in 2003. This is what i tell the ones who i know personally.

Do you have a lot of options? Maybe thats why its easy for you to be faithful.

Now imagine being in position where attractive females that you never had a chance with are now throwing themselves at you. It wouldn't as easy to stay faithful.

It's easy for a beer belly father working at the post office to stay faithful because his options are limited.